The Single’s Guide: 5 ways to survive Valentine’s Day if you’re single

I wasn’t going to write this post again because I felt like I have shared one too many Valentine’s Day post. But at the 1000th glance of selfies, I said ahhh Tega you can’t let this selfies go to waste; your blog readers must see this pictures too (as I’ve been flooding social media with them) so you have to write this post and use the opportunity to show off this cute selfies. Vain much! But if I don’t cheer me who will?

Funny thing is I use Cassie Daves blog planner to plan out my blog posts for the month. (One of the best thing that has happened to my blog) While I was brainstorming posts Ideas for February I thought it would be cool and witty to share a single’s guide to surviving valentine’s Day. TBH, I didn’t know I would find millions of similar posts when I googled – To think I was excited to for my fresh Idea bruh! My excitement didn’t live to see the next few minutes.


So, tomorrow is Valentine’s Day… and you are single. So what?

Actually, that is awesome, because you can choose to celebrate it any way you want! In fact, you can even choose to ignore it completely. However, that last option is actually quite difficult to pull off.

Some people love it, some people hate it, but there’s no doubt that when you are single, it’s a looming reminder of your lack in relationship status aka single awareness day. However, if you’re single through choice and quite happy with that status, then it’s not a big deal.  I’m indifferent because I don’t believe love should be celebrated 1 day out 365 days. Everyday should be your valentine if you’re in love.


How to survive Valentine’s Day if you're single


Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be depressing if you aren’t in a relationship! Some single ladies are already dreading this day and hoping ‘they’ sleep tonight the 13th and wake up on the 15th 😀😀😀. Sweetie it’s not that serious… calm your ovaries!

There’s absolutely nothing wrong in being single, you’ve managed perfectly well all through cuddle December and January but now comes the ultimate test. So It’s okay. Just breath, I’ve got you covered because I, a fellow singleton, have a list of 5 ways we should spend our Valentine’s Day to make it the most awesome experience ever. I refuse to let you spend this day feeling way too self-aware, thinking back to all your failed relationships. God will do it at his own will. No Pressure!


How to survive Valentine’s Day if you're single

5 awesome ways to survive Valentine’s Day if you’re single

“I should be in a relationship, I should have the perfect date planned, should have flowers, should have a well thought out gift, should have the perfect card with the perfect words of affirmation” bla bla bla… Stop wallowing in self-pity: it only makes things worse by reinforcing the idea of your own helplessness and loneliness making yourself more miserable in the process.

So do yourself a favour:

How to survive Valentine’s Day if you're single

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#1 Get your shit together and stop wallowing in self-pity

So this Valentine’s Day, Instead of drowning yourself in pity and complaining, put that time and energy used to grouse about being single into being productive.  You’ll be surprised at how much things you have to do – clean out your closest, do your laundry, meditate, think of new ideas, finish up that pending project, read a book, write a book, write out a business plan, cook, workout, give yourself permission to just Netflix and chill (literally—not, like, the couple’s version), dance your heart out, gossip with a friend and if you don’t have anything to do, hit me up I have a lot on my plate and I wouldn’t mind a helping hand.

I mean there are a million and one things you could do… And oh! It’s a working day so just focus on your job like the good staff that you’re. Practice a little self-love: you’re strong — you’ve earned it.


How to survive Valentine’s Day if you're single

#2 Spend time with fellow singleton: Have a galantine day instead

Sometimes there’s no better way to forget about your exes than dancing the night away with some of your best friends. Yes, Galentine’s Day is technically on the 13th, but who says that February 14 can’t be Galentine’s Day too? Celebrate with all of the single ladies (or even men) in your life. Grab a few friends and do whatever makes you happy. Just enjoy each other’s company!
In case you’re wondering:
Galentine – A word use to describe February 13th, the other half of valentine’s day, when you celebrate your love for your lady friends! single or no.


How to survive Valentine’s Day if you're single

#3 Stay off Social Media

Being on social media on the V-Day is not for the faint hearthed! You going to literally turn green with envy – just be prepared to be inundated with exhibitionist Instagram and Facebook posts (awon pepper them gang are not here to play). Stay woke!

Go online at your own peril to view all the nauseating posts of love and happiness everyone will be sharing on your timeline. Also, Stalking all your exes on Facebook and Instagram, wishing they get dumped wouldn’t change the fact that you are single. You also don’t want to be the Valentine’s troll, who comments on everyone else’s lovey-dovey posts.

Some people will struggle to do this (although a detox might be what you need, you addict). You’re honestly just doing yourself a favour by not only cutting down on places to vent but you won’t be getting hit with quite as many V-Day reminders.


How to survive Valentine’s Day if you're single

#4 Treat Yourself!

Retail therapy, yo! Go shopping it’s the best medicine. Shopping makes me extremely happy I can’t even explain the joy and inner peace I feel when I shop. Give yourself a manicure. Go get a massage. Take a nice, long bath. Eat the biggest cheese burger – consider Valentine’s Day a cheat day (single or not food will always be my valentine).

Do whatever makes you feel happy and surround yourself with things that you love. You are an amazing person who isn’t solely defined by their relationship status and you’re no better or worse than those who have significant others. No matter what, you deserve to be happy and content on Valentine’s Day. So, treat yourself! You’ll feel a lot better than you would if you were to just sulk all day. Plus, this kind of stuff will totally get your mind off of the fact that it’s Valentine’s Day. It’s a win-win, my friends.


How to survive Valentine’s Day if you're single

#5 Seek the greatest love of all

You may think you are all alone in this world, but there is someone who loves you and cares for you more than you could ever know, and he wants you to experience his love. Why not read the Gospels to discover all the love Jesus wants to give you? It might surprise you to discover just how precious you are in his sight.

Other ways are to:

Focus on giving (share your love across to the less privileged), try something new, re-evaluate your goals, celebrate yourself, spend time with family, surround yourself with positive people, let go of the past, self-reflect and finally read joro’s page on Instagram – love/relationship is not all that rosy. Some say it’s over-rated so rejoice in your singleness.


How to survive Valentine’s Day if you're single

Giving you side eye like you better enjoy Valentine’s Day to the fullest single or not


Whatever you decide to do this Valentine’s Day know that being single should not bring you down. You have plenty of time in your life to be in a relationship and celebrate that person, forever is a long time to be with the love of your life but you only have so much time to focus on and celebrate you!  Honestly, you should celebrate being alone and Valentine’s Day might just be the perfect time to enjoy the best relationship you’ve ever had—with yourself.


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Remember that Valentine’s Day is just one day. There are 364 others in the year. You will still be single on the 15th, so ease up on yourself the 14th.  You get to move forward, confidently, knowing that Valentine’s Day is over.  You now have 12 months to get ready for next year. Go forth and make the most of it now so we don’t have to have this chat again next year.

Valentine’s Day is what you make it.


How to survive Valentine’s Day if you're single

You should be all smiles tomorrow the 14th

So singletons, how do you feel about spending Valentine’s Day single and what will you be doing?

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  • Milli_kai
    February 13, 2017

    Best advice ever, self love is the altimate.Valentine is overrated, be yourself and don’t killyourself yet it’s just one day biko lol 😘😘😘

  • Adyvsfoods
    February 13, 2017


    Tega,im just going to cook.

  • Daniella Bature
    February 13, 2017

    It’s weird to me the emphasis and import people put on this V-day stuff, it’s just 1 day, oneeeeee day in a whole year. Thanks for sharing these tips Tega and the selfies oh my God! Thank God they didn’t waste, lol

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  • Olaitan Bobade
    February 13, 2017

    The selfies are a 100. Super cute. Love the makeup too. I enjoyed the humour in this post. Just knowing about Galentine’s day, weird? So I’d probably stay in and sleep for the larger part of the day, read and maybe watch TV. Lol. One day, I’d get the v-day fever. Lol

  • Tochi Mmajieke
    February 14, 2017

    I waited until now to leave a comment.. So I can proudly say I survived vals day 😂..
    Sincerely vals day is overrated biko.. 1,4&5 worked for me.. I spent my morning cleaning my house cos I moved into a new house during the weekend.. Spent my afternoon cleaning my old house.. Spent my evening in church.. And my day ended fulfilled.. Afterall on worlds AIDS day not everyone has Aids..
    BTW the selfies I love 😍

  • Biki
    February 15, 2017

    Guuuurl, loving how you created a post around your selfies! Well its the 15th and V Day hype is oooover and we (as in Singles) survived, woop woop! I was so busy yesterday and actually in a reasonably good mood. Hope you had a good day too hon ( : Ps these are great tips and you and yr gurl be representn’ yo!

  • Oma
    February 15, 2017

    In other news, gurl your eyeliner can SLICE! My LAWD it’s a fire! ❤️

  • Idu
    February 20, 2017

    There may be millions of hits on the same topic but each one gives a unique perspective. So I say kudos on your idea girl. Your selfies are stunning. I love your make up. Great tips!

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