Why I got my braces and dealing with low self esteem | Story time (Part 1)
The time has finally come for me to blog about my braces journey!!!
This post has been due since the 3rd of july but man! I have been crazy busy…. well, I am here now.
May 2014 was when I made the rather momentous decision of getting braces done… at the ripe old age of 23! My teeth has always been crooked with a super big protruding “dracular looking rabbit teeth” 🤣🤣😂. It is called an overbite.
What is an overbite?
“A deep overbite is a malocclusion that is recognized by an excessive degree of overlap of the upper and lower teeth. A ideal overbite has a degree of overlap that would be about one or two millimeters.” Bruh! My overbite was about 13 millimeters. 😪😩😫
Overbites are caused by hereditary or genetics that are part of the natural eruption of teeth. Chronic habits as thumb sucking can contribute to an overbite because the thumb pushes the upper teeth too far forward of the lower teeth causing maxillary protrusion or over jet.
The thumb will actually push the upper teeth and bone forward while the thumb also pushes the lower jaw backwards. If a patient already has a deep overbite, as they age, their teeth wear down and will cause the overbite to get deeper.
P:s – I hated my side profile but right now it is my favorite angle. Know your angles ladies!!!! 😍😍
A little background story
As a child, I sucked my thumb till I was 8 years old. I have memories of my mum putting plaster and bitter leaf on my thumb to prevent me from sucking. That didn’t help; it was against all odds – me and my thumb together forever. Provided I had that thumb in my mouth, I wouldn’t cry. Little did I know! Whenever I see a child sucking, I show the parents my teeth and warn them. No need for too much talk!
I also fell in the bath tub and lost both front teeth which only made it worse. Sucking my thumb had pushed my upper jaw forward so my new teeth grew protruding.
This teeth cost me all the self esteem I had growing up. I was too conscious; I knew I had a really bad dentition and no matter how much my parents and my family tried to convince that it wasn’t that bad. Omo it was bad!!!!
It made me quiet, reserved and antisocial. 😪😔😔
My primary school friends and classmates would always
yab tease me for my bunny teeth. I am very sure I held m. y tears and when to the bathroom to cry a lot of times. This continued to secondary school – some took it as a joke, of course I would pretend to laugh it off but deep within I was legit hurt.
I remember the last day of our WACE, we were all excited; we were pouring water on each other, writing our names on our school uniform and just constituting a nuisance in school. The joy of not having to wake up 4am every day, do morning chores, trek to school, escape coming late to school punishment, standing on assembly line – pure torture!, difficult assignments and getting flogged because one over sabi student misbehaved. Come to think of it, my secondary school days were the best days of my life to be honest. Even more fun than uni.
Anyways, back to my story…,
There was this guy that was kinda sluggish and use to behave like a girl and we nicknamed him ‘agama’ as in agama lizard. He hated that name! And me and my big mouth went to find trouble where there wasn’t. I think I called him agama or I wrote agama on his uniform – I can’t remember. ‘Agama’ didn’t spare me o! He insulted me right back with the one thing he didn’t know will pierce through my soul. 😂😤😭
He called me big teeth or something. 😂😤😭 I was so pained ehhh! I told myself I must fix this teeth whether the devil likes it or not. Annoying part was I couldn’t stand up to any one that made reference to my teeth, I will just keep you malice and you will be wondering what you did. 😂🤣😅!
My mum did try to get me braces when I was younger. I remember vividly my visits to the dentist in Maiduguri teaching hospital. I was say 10 years old – it was just a metal ring sort off that I was suppose to wear and remove only when I want to brush or eat. But Tega being Tega would take it off and forget to put it back on in weeks. I eventually gave up on it, it didn’t seem like it was working anyway.
Over the years, the protruding teeth will worsen and protrude more as the lower ones will push it out more, ending up biting onto my roof of the mouth. I realized my gums are always bleeding and sensitive. Because that’s what happens if you have an overbite and don’t fix it. But I never really entertained the thought of having braces done, due to the below reasons:
1. The experience I had as a kid with my first braces. Teachers and students will always ask what metal was in my teeth bla bla bla… it was just awkward jare! Besides, it wasn’t at all common in Nigeria hence their million and one questions.
2. Braces are EXPENSIVE!
3. Horror stories about how painful they are 😩😫
4. I have to look weird with metal thingies in my mouth for God knows how many years. 🙄🙄
Thank God for the ‘agama’ incidence 😂😂😂, I knew I had to do something. So, after my valedictory service (VS), I called my mum and told her I needed to fix my teeth ASAP. This was in 2008.
Notice my smile has gotten better?
some a lot of research, It was expensive and there wasn’t money available at the time to go on with the treatment. I went on to Uniben and just continued living my life; university students are more matured and when those hungry, blood sucking, bad intention university boys started giving me attention, I felt I wasn’t so bad after all.
The body and brains were making up for the bad teeth. But I still knew I had to fix my teeth and myself esteem! I use to run from group pictures then because I knew I was going to be the ugliest in the picture. You will never catch me smiling pictures or laughing out loud in public.
As I grew older, I knew I couldn’t continue living my life like this; I had a deeper understanding of what self confidence was and I learnt to accept and love myself the way I am. I mean, no body is perfect – I had other things to offer. Guys were even more attracted to my brains. Yes, I am a smart kid! 😜😝 and I work so hard to gain knowledge. I didn’t bloody care about what people said about me any more. I was just living life and doing me basically – If you like love me or hate me, I don’t care!
I had to love myself first for people to love. I was a constant slayer, so people always commended my dressing. I knew I had much more to offer than a pretty face. In fact, I will even tease myself. I had to focus on what was more important at the time.
There’s nothing sexier than a confident woman! So I aimed and taught myself to be a confident woman.
Crazy thing is we tell ourselves these things, we make them noticeable even when others do not see them. All my life I had always told myself I had a very very very bad dentition. But others do not see it as a big deal. People accept you for who you’re but we however try to convince them otherwise.
A typical scenario would be;
Boy: You are so beautiful
Me: O please! With my big teeth – stop lying to me.
Just take the compliment and be happy. Mba! Trust me, it is all in your head.!
Low self esteem limits you in so many ways you can never imagine. I should have started my blog a long time ago but I was too scared of the way my pictures would turn out. I was scared of people calling me ugly. I just felt I had gone too far in building my esteem to let the internet ridicule me back to square zero. So, I kept procrastinating starting the blog – but alas I took the bold step and YOU reading this can testify that I have come a long way.
I have clearly been misbehaving with my new teeth
I am still a work in progress!
To be honest, I am still not confident enough to go on video. I remember one time my uncles ‘Bishop crew‘ were shooting a video for a gospel song. They asked my cousin and my brother to join the video. I was excited o! But when the time came I chickened out 😩😫. I just couldn’t get myself to do it because I know I just look funny on video 😤😤. Just recently @larateshola and I had this conversation and she just couldn’t understand why I didn’t want her to upload the makeup video she made of me…she spoke some words of wisdom to me which sank.
A lot of people have told me to try YouTube also but I said NEVER!!!! I might reconsider sha. But YouTube is too stressful abeg – apart from the fact that I am not just cut out for making videos YET!
I have asked myself if I’d turn down a TV interview? hmmmmm!. Anyways, we concluded that I start practicing on my own, just make random videos and learn to be confident. I have been doing this!
I am constantly praying about this. Prayer helps!
Any Ideas please.?
It wasn’t my intention to make this post this lengthy but I just couldn’t help myself. I had to break it into 2 parts. So please, make sure you read part 2 HERE. I will be sharing every thing you need to know about getting a braces, the procedure, progress and most importantly the cost. I’ll post it tomorrow.