In 6 days it will be exactly 5 months since I did the big chop. Joining the natural hair gang is one of the best decisions I’ve made! well I was kinda forced to make, I had no choice really; it’s quiet a funny story. I believe I’m blessed in every other department with an exception of the hair department: I wonder where my mum was when God was sharing good hair (#inhousejoke) and oh! my dad has no hair also. Genetically, my mum has a light feathered hair with no hairline and stunted growth and my dad ain’t just hairy although has a thicker hair. Now when these genes came together, you can it imagine the kind of hair it birthed.
So I blame it on my genes. My analogy!
But I got lucky… It ain’t so bad after all.. As a child I had full thick brown hair with a good hairline. Thank Jesus! I hated the sandy brown color, my mum will jokingly say I should be happy I’m ‘legally blonde’ and if I knew how many girls wished they had this hair color I’d appreciate it more. But as I grew older, poor hair care practices, relaxer and dye damaged the hair and of course the gene factor. I knew absolutely nothing about taking care of my hair, I was a tomboy… Yes i was a tomboy. I couldn’t be bothered about hair I wanted to cut it low but because my dad is a neat and beautiful hair advocate (your hair can’t be unkempt in his house), he didn’t let me. He’ll literally drag me to the salon every other weekend or call the stylist for home service. Kai!! Daddy has really done the most for me. In secondary school, I’d have to make my hair on Sunday evening because by Tuesday it will seem as though I made it 2 weeks ago. Anyway long story short. I chopped it off when I was in ss3. I wasted no time relaxing and dying it again just for the purpose of Jerry curls and gels. It took forever for it to grow to the point where I could make the tiniest pony tail you’ve ever seen. The struggle was real bruh!!!
2014, I decided to join the natural hair bandwagon with the hope that my hair will become healthier since relaxer was one of the main cause of damage to the hair. I was advised to transition and also considering the fact that it will take another life time to grow back, it wasn’t such a bad Idea. 8 months later I couldn’t take it anymore, I missed making center parting, side parting and other styles that require a little hair out. I mean, I wanted to lay those edges Alas, I retouched and that was the end. Literally!
My hair started breaking, I’d comb my hair and the floor will look like a saloon where 10 persons had just made their hair. As in, the breakage was savage! And me being me had accepted the fate of my hair; I gave it no care what so ever. No cream, oil, etc. worse is I had emily millionaire, hair booster, drogo hair growth oil and anti itch oil (all my Nigerian sisters can identify. Hey y’all!). but I was just too lazy and honestly It never crosses my mind.
The funny story!
One faithful morning o! I woke up and touched my hair and one part was totally gone, Imagine the shock of my life! In fact it took me few minutes to regain consciousness. I could bet that someone had cut my hair while I was asleep or in my dream. (I never hesperedit it!) I had to show my mum and brother to see for themselves. The hair has been low key cutting but I didn’t realise it was that bad… Well I did but I assumed it was just the tips. I didn’t know it had gotten to the root. I
jejely got a scissor and begged my brother to help me cut the rest.
I just told myself Tega, it’s not the end of the world. Worse things happen to good people and at least there are wigs to cover whatever dignity it has left. I’ve decided to go natural this time around, no turning back at all. I try to wash and shampoo the hair at least twice a week, I cream and Oil it also. It still breaks but not as much as before. And it feels healthy already, I can’t get my hands off the curls.
I met a friend and narrated the unfortunate incidence . She said UAE weather is really bad for our hair, the heat and the dryness causes breakage so you have to keep your hair moist at all times. I have been doing that but tbh I’ve I’m not consistent although I can already see improvements a more reason why I want to put in more efforts being a supposed naturalist.
A lot of people ask why I’m not rocking the natural hair yet. I want it to get to a particular length first, a bit more healthy, and with minimum or no breakage. I really to want to enjoy this natural hair journey and most importantly see progress. And no I’m not a die hard naturalist (ain’t nobody gat time for that)- I LOVE my wigs but for the joy of having a healthy hair and the sake of my unborn daughters (you never know my genetics might just change also #ifwisheswerehorses) I need tips and Ideas on how to improve its growth, healthiness and texture. I want to learn more, I’ll do my own research and experiments and share them here also.
Photo Credit: Cherie Tizon
Makeup by yours truly .