My Natural Hair Journey

In 6 days it will be exactly 5 months since I did the big chop. Joining the natural hair gang is one of the best decisions I’ve made! well I was kinda forced to make, I had no choice really; it’s quiet a funny story. I believe I’m blessed in every other department with an exception of the hair department:  I wonder where my mum was when God was sharing good hair [wp-svg-icons icon=”happy-2″ wrap=”i”] [wp-svg-icons icon=”happy-2″ wrap=”i”] [wp-svg-icons icon=”happy-2″ wrap=”i”] (#inhousejoke) and oh! my dad has no hair also. Genetically, my mum has a light feathered hair with no hairline and stunted growth and my dad ain’t just hairy although has a thicker hair. Now when these genes came together, you can it imagine the kind of hair it birthed.
So I blame it on my genes. My analogy!

5 months later and we're are still here
5 months later and we’re are still here

But I got lucky… It ain’t so bad after all.. As a child I had full thick brown hair with a good hairline. Thank Jesus! I hated the sandy brown color, my mum will jokingly say I should be happy I’m ‘legally blonde’ [wp-svg-icons icon=”grin-2″ wrap=”i”] [wp-svg-icons icon=”grin-2″ wrap=”i”] and if I knew how many girls wished they had this hair color I’d appreciate it more. But as I grew older, poor hair care practices, relaxer and dye damaged the hair and of course the gene factor. I knew absolutely nothing about taking care of my hair, I was a tomboy… Yes i was a tomboy. I couldn’t be bothered about hair I wanted to cut it low but because my dad is a neat and beautiful hair advocate (your hair can’t be unkempt in his house), he didn’t let me. He’ll literally drag me to the salon every other weekend or call the stylist for home service. Kai!!  Daddy has really done the most for me.  Ikeja-20120929-07516In secondary school, I’d have to make my hair on Sunday evening because by Tuesday it will seem as though I made it 2 weeks ago.  Anyway long story short. I chopped it off when I was in ss3. I wasted no time relaxing and dying it again just for the purpose of Jerry curls and gels. It took forever for it to grow to the point where I could make the tiniest pony tail you’ve ever seen. The struggle was real bruh!!!

2014, I decided to join the natural hair bandwagon with the hope that my hair will become healthier since relaxer was one of the main cause of damage to the hair. I was advised to transition and also considering the fact that it will take another life time to grow back, it wasn’t such a bad Idea. 8 months later I couldn’t take it anymore, I missed making center parting, side parting and other styles that require a little hair out. I mean, I wanted to lay those edges [wp-svg-icons icon=”happy-2″ wrap=”i”] [wp-svg-icons icon=”happy” wrap=”i”] Alas, I retouched and that was the end. Literally!

My natural hair journey

My hair started breaking, I’d comb my hair and the floor will look like a saloon where 10 persons had just made their hair. As in, the breakage was savage! And me being me had accepted the fate of my hair; I gave it no care what so ever. No cream, oil, etc. worse is I had emily millionaire, hair booster, drogo hair growth oil and anti itch oil (all my Nigerian sisters can identify. Hey y’all!). but I was just too lazy and honestly It never crosses my mind.

My natural hair journey

The funny story!
One faithful morning o! I woke up and touched my hair and one part was totally gone, Imagine the shock of my life! In fact it took me few minutes to regain consciousness. I could bet that someone had cut my hair while I was asleep or in my dream. (I never hesperedit it!) I had to show my mum and brother to see for themselves. The hair has been low key cutting but I didn’t realise it was that bad… Well I did but I assumed it was just the tips. I didn’t know it had gotten to the root. I jejely got a scissor and begged my brother to help me cut the rest. [wp-svg-icons icon=”grin-2″ wrap=”i”] [wp-svg-icons icon=”grin” wrap=”i”] [wp-svg-icons icon=”grin-2″ wrap=”i”]

My natural hair journey

I just told myself Tega, it’s not the end of the world. Worse things happen to good people and at least there are wigs to cover whatever dignity it has left. I’ve decided to go natural this time around, no turning back at all. I try to wash and shampoo the hair at least twice a week, I cream and Oil it also. It still breaks but not as much as before. And it feels healthy already, I can’t get my hands off the curls. [wp-svg-icons icon=”grin-2″ wrap=”i”] [wp-svg-icons icon=”grin-2″ wrap=”i”]
I met a friend and narrated the unfortunate incidence [wp-svg-icons icon=”grin-2″ wrap=”i”] [wp-svg-icons icon=”grin” wrap=”i”] [wp-svg-icons icon=”grin-2″ wrap=”i”]. She said UAE weather is really bad for our hair, the heat and the dryness causes breakage so you have to keep your hair moist at all times. I have been doing that but tbh I’ve I’m not consistent although I can already see improvements a more reason why I want to put in more efforts being a supposed naturalist.

My natural hair journey

A lot of people ask why I’m not rocking the natural hair yet. I want it to get to a particular length first, a bit more healthy, and with minimum or no breakage. I really to want to enjoy this natural hair journey and most importantly see progress. And no I’m not a die hard naturalist (ain’t nobody gat time for that)- I LOVE my wigs but for the joy of having a healthy hair and the sake of my unborn daughters (you never know my genetics might just change also #ifwisheswerehorses) I need tips and Ideas on how to improve its growth, healthiness and texture. I want to learn more, I’ll do my own research and experiments and share them here also.
Tips anyone?

My natural hair journey

My natural hair journey

Photo Credit: Cherie Tizon
Makeup by yours truly [wp-svg-icons icon=”wink-2″ wrap=”i”] [wp-svg-icons icon=”wink” wrap=”i”].


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  1. After reading this I just discovered my story is same as yours ( am a naturalista…lol) moreover I had my hair cut throughout my teenagehood… And when I graduated from secondary school it was a big opportunity to make my hair and I rushed and relaxed it so the hair could be long a little, it was long, and it grew very fast but by my third year in the university it stopped growing and hair breakage was my first name lol… So now I decided to go natural but am the most careless naturalista on earth (just exaggerating)…. Thank God for this post, reading this is an inspiration that my hair could also stop breaking and that gradually I can have a healthy hair just like you’re having now.

    • haha… fake naturalist. That your hair looks relaxed though with it’s sharp edges. Relaxer is just the end of our hair and we’ve refused to accept this. It does more damage than good.
      Good luck!!! Just keep it moist all the time.

  2. Been waiting for this post like forever 😓
    Glad now 😃
    My name is Ada, I have good hair.
    The kinda long full dark hair every girl would literarily drool over but recently I got the inclination that team natural is a better side to be on. So I’m doing the big chop today sorry tomorrow maybe 😬Actually was supposed to be yesterday but I found every possible reason on earth to let my hair see the light of one more day after all it’s been with me through thick and thin . Lol
    I really want to do this but I need encouragement sort of 😖
    Someone help

    • lol sorry it’s late. Blame it on ‘the visit’ movie. Best Nigerian movie I’ve seen in a long time.
      Team Natural is definitely the ‘best side’. You should transition but don’t give up like I did else it will break.
      A lot of Girls have gotten great results transitioning. But if you insist on doing the big chop then go ahead. At least you know your head will grow back quickly unlike mine. But there’s no going back.
      Good Luck. Do it today and get over it. Just invest in wigs and no one will notice.

  3. Tega my experience is also similar to yours. My hairline and most of the hair in front have a finer texture while the back is thick and grows fast. I even cut the front at some point thinking it would grow differently.

    So I no longer compare the length of my hair with anyone but to prevent breakage I use a satin bonnet when it’s out, I always use sulphate free shampoos and I try to keep it moisturised. I really enjoyed this post, maybe I will share mine too hmm 🙂

    • I should start doing that too. I don’t even cover mine at all. No wonder I find broken hair strands when I wake up.
      Thanks for the tips dear. I’m glad you enjoyed reading the post.
      Have a great day.

  4. I have been a naturalista since 2013 and although I had an incident that made me cut my big fro,I still went back to it.Am basically the laziest person when it comes to hair and I thank God everyday that am blessed with full hair doesn’t grow so fast in length but it’s always super full.I wish it would grow faster but oh well…
    I actually cried when I had to cut my big fro but I have come to terms with the fact that it’s gone.Believe me,I didn’t throw away that hair for almost 4 months…and it wasn’t until I did,that was when I realized that it’s just hair and it’ll grow back.
    My hair is 10 months now and the length ain’t much but am glad am alive and still have hair.
    Can’t wait to see how you rock yours when the time comes.I enjoyed every bit of this post

    • You actually kept it for 4months… Lol .. I can imagine how difficult that would have been for you. I’d still be crying today if it was my hair. Aww so sorry you had to go through that.
      Surprisingly I prefer long to full. I just wanna experience having a long hair in my life.. Ahh God should do miracle for me. I’d be the happiest girl on earth 😂😂😂😂😂…
      Thanks for reading Hun 😘😘😘

  5. And because we cannot all be perfect in every aspect, one part must remain flawed, it teaches us to shrug off what needs shrugging and embrace what needs to be embrace, it’s the way we accept our flaws that makes us admirable,,,,,, I am so loving this new hair, and yes natural is beautiful.
    PS, no tips dear im not blessed in that department either haha.
    xx Bing

  6. I didn’t know you were natural welcome to the Club. I have been natural for 3 years best decision ever. I transitioned accidental due to hair breakage. I used to tell my daughter that her hair is beautiful and she started asking me that “if it is beautiful how come you do not keep yours like mine” So when my hair started breaking I decided it is about time I practise what I preach. Kids really struggle with this issue especially in western countries where everyone has silky straight hair. Since I became natural I have seen my kids become so confident and comfortable in their own skin and their own curly afro hair.

  7. Yay.. Welcome on board.
    Returning natural can be a bit overwhelming at the beginning but with time you will get used to it and know what works. One step at a time.
    I had to laugh at “not a die hard naturalist ”
    As long as you wash your hair regularly, deep condition and seal In moisture by oiling your hair when it’s either wet or damp, you should be fine. That’s the basic, basic.

  8. Looool your description of your parents’ hair is funny. And you look absolutely gorgeous in these pictures. I actually cut my hair because relaxers used to make me cry and I couldn’t take it anymore. Plus, my hair wasn’t even growing so I decided to start over. Best decision ever.Thank you for your comment! xx

  9. I’ve been natural for a little over a year and have some people say I have slow hair growth while some think the opposite it’s funny and I was also a tomboy when I was younger and cut my hair once cause I was just tired.
    I’m not a die hard naturalist also, my hair is always on one protective style or another

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